Testimonials

Elizabeth April 20, 2013

I just wanted to take a few minutes to write this testimony in honor of Overcoming Abuse God’s Way has been an inspiration in my life. When I was a child, my brother and I suffered abuse from our mother and stepfather. We were physically, sexually, mentally, emotionally, and verbally abused every day for 5 years. Our stepfather would sell us for the day or night to people.

Eventually, we were put into foster care were it really wasn’t much better. Although there was no sexual abuse, there were the verbal, emotional, mental, and even forms of many different physical abuse that we had to endure for almost 2 years. We were then adopted into the same home. There was no more abuse and we finally felt safe for the first time in our lives. Then things started to change, our mom started treating us like we were toddlers instead of 10 and 11 years old. Eventually my brother was sent away, and not long after, so was I.

We bounced around from foster home to foster until we were both 18. We felt like we were worthless and unlovable. Who could possibly want to love someone whose own parents didn’t want them and sold them and choice a man over her kids?

I never graduated high school, but I went to Job Corps and received my GED and my CNA degree. I was in a relationship for a year and a half when I got pregnant with my son, then we got married. The day after we were married, he left for Army Boot Camp, which didn’t last very long due to the fact that he had problems with asthma when he was younger and he had a flare up a couple of years before that. So, once again, I was left alone. We were married for ten and a half years before we were divorced. We have 3 kids together. My ex and I had a lot of ups and downs. He was not always the nicest person to me, just like I wasn’t to him. He was and can still be, very controlling. I went through dealing with a lot of name calling and being belittled and feeling of worthlessness. I went through a very DEEP depression for many years. It eventually got so bad that I ended up OD-ing about 7 or 8 times. I knew I had hit rock bottom and I was drowning.

I continued to suffer in silence for several years after my divorce and continued to make several bad choices. I was hurting myself and I didn’t care. I knew in my head that I was unlovable and that I didn’t deserved to be loved by anyone. But I had this empty place in my heart that was so dark and longed to be filled and I didn’t know what to do about it.

Then along came Overcoming Abuse God’s Way. I have known Janet for many years. And I have watched her go through the same things that I have gone through. I had the pleasure of reading her book as she was writing it and never realized the depth of what she had gone through. But I knew that she had overcome it ALL through the grace of God and His guidance and love and wisdom. And I knew that I wanted to have that same strength and compassion that she was able to have and I knew the only way to do that was to first forgive those who hurt me, and then to learn to accept what had happened to me and that it wasn’t my fault and I do not have to continue to go through any of that anymore because I don’t deserve to be treated that way!

Now as time has gone on and I have worked with Janet and been to a few of her meetings to help watch some of the women’s kids for them so that they would be able to go to the meeting and receive love and support from Janet and the other women at the meetings, I decided that I wanted to study Psychology so that I may be able to help other women who have or are going through the same things I have and to help them find a safe alternative way out instead of hurting themselves or others.

Thank you for your time. Sincerely, Elizabeth

 

Gugu Mofokeng, Founder- Recovery Village Director, Global Gogirl RSA

Hallo my friend praise the LORD I’m back on facebook.

I was on my way to commit suicide when I heard Janet Napper on the radio. Just before that I asked God for a sign. I tried to kill myself 3 other times but it did not work. I called Janet and told her I only had a minute on my phone. She quickly took my number and called me back and talked with me. Janet called me many times until I could get into Beit Shalom safe house for abused women. If I knew I was going to be the only white lady there I would not have gone! I discovered love for the first time in my life through a white woman and many more who volunteered. When I went into the home I could not look at Janet in the eyes but she insisted we were equal and one was not better than another in the eyes of God. After three months I could slowly look Janet into the eyes.

Overcoming Abuse Gods Way opened my eyes to many things. I came to the understanding I was not my circumstances and just how loved I was by God. This is a powerful program God used to heal me. The abused home was not easy for me. I was happy then sad then angry. I wanted to leave a couple times but Janet encouraged me to stay saying I have come so far. I did not want to stay but I wanted my healing and I had no place to go.

Whenever I told Janet I loved her, she would tell me it is God in me you love. I had Christmas presents for the first time in my life. I stayed the full six months and I praise God. Today I am on the Board of Directors for Global Gogirl, South Africa and have a ministry called Global Village where I am an advocate for abused women.

I thank God for Global Gogirl and Overcoming Abuse Gods Way.

 

Sherry February 20, 2013

Here it is. You can use it any way you want. Here is my testimony. I don’t know where to start. I was about 5 or 6 years old when one of my brothers sexually abused me and when I was a little older he raped. He went away to prison for raping a women. After he went to prison my other brother started sexually abusing until I was 12. When I was 15 my brother got out of prison. We fought all the time. When I was 19 my dad died of a heart attack. I was going to church and very involved until I was about 26 years old. At that time I was starting to remember the abuse. I was mad at God and stopped going to church. I also started using drugs.

When I was 27 I moved away. Tried to run away from my problems. But that did not work. I kept using drugs off and on. I almost got kicked out of where I was living. When I was 27 I moved back home. Things were not much better. I got into a bad crowd. I was still mad at God. I blamed him for everything. I had a bad temper. I was fighting withy brother and also put a couple of holes in the wall with my fist. I started drinking and using drugs again. I also started having sex with different guys. Sometimes three or four a night. Then I stopped using the drugs and drinking for a while. I still had a bad temper. Got into fights with my brother. I lived with one brother. The one that raped me and my mom. The brother I was living with was also going off on me all the time and was drinking. I was getting along with my other.

Then when I was 24, in 2005. My brother I got along with died. I was devastated. I still mad at God. Did not want anything to do with church. After my brother died I started using drugs again. Still not going to church. In 2009 I was diagnosis with Bi-Polar. During that time I was in and out of the hospital about 8 times before they got my meds straight.

In 2011 I decided to try going to church one Sunday. In the church bulletin I saw a meeting for a group Over Coming Abuse Gods Way. When I saw it. I said myself no way. Well after another Sunday or two. I saw that there was a meeting the next Saturday. I asked Janet about it and she told me to come. I showed up that Saturday, I felt loved from the beginning. I turned my life over to God that day. I also started counseling one on one with Janet. She got me to understand that it was not Gods fault. It was the abusers fault. My temper started to get better. I still had problems with it. I have been working on forgiveness and my temper. Right now my temper is better I’ve forgiven him. Although I still try to take that back some. I have used drugs off and on. At times it is a struggle but right now I’m clean. I’m also able to pray for my brother. I never thought that would happen. I would not have been able to do this without God, Janet and Over Coming Abuse Gods Way.

 

Charmaine September 6, 2012

My life is so full of joy and happiness my husband really did turn out to be a man everybody wishes to have. It’s actually funny everybody wishes to have a man like him. I know nobody can believe that he used to be an alcoholic and woman abuser who forced me into prostitution and took all my money. He changed soooooo much. He gave his life to God, he asked me to forgive him, we go to church and he gives me everything I want. We are so open to each other and can you believe it’s already almost more than four years, just shows what faith and prayer can do when I was in the house Beit Shalom with you Janet and Overcoming Abuse Gods Way. I asked God for strength and guidance and to help me with my problems and He did. It was not easy being in the safe house but I kept on praying for my husband because I love him and didn’t want to lose him. Well I can’t complain about the outcome. I mean nobody ever thought that he would change and he did, a message to woman is that there is good in every man and women just have to pray and have faith in God and when you find the good hold on to it treasure it and don’t let go. I found mine and wouldn’t have it any other way. The only thing I can say is let God take over He knows everything and He will help sometimes it takes a bit longer but he knows how to help.

JUST TRUST GOD AND LET HIM INTO YOUR HEART ……….it’s that simple and easy Love to all of you….. Charmaine age 26

 

Tanya Matthews Director: Global GOGirl

Dear Janet,

Greetings from South Africa

I would like to take this opportunity in writing to you to firstly Thank you for training I received whilst You were in Cape Town 2012. Working with woman has always been on my heart and I know it’s something God birthed within me

My concern was always in the past, how will I equip and empower myself to be able to help other woman in my City and wide spread in my Country as the Need is so Big in South Africa, that in looking at the statistics of woman abuse in South Africa the numbers would scare us, but personally when I walked the road of restoration in my own life with Overcoming Abuse God’s way, there is no way I cannot, not action myself in doing something. Due to lack of Funding sadly many woman shelters/ Havens don’t receive the resources and material needed to help survivors’ .Resources and Training is needed to get the volunteers and social workers equipped in this field. Poverty and crime is so rampant in the very community I stay that young girls are settling to stay in abusive relationships ,some resort to prostitution thinking it’s the answer to the way out of Poverty and others sadly become victims are human trafficking. Boys and Men are ending in prisons and resorting to life on the streets, gangs and drug life because all they know of is seeing their dads beat up and abuse their mother. This Cycle needs to stop in our Country and in My City.

Janet, the Need is Big, but I know that “Over coming Abuse God’s way is and will make a difference It made a difference in my Life – I am called to action and BE THE CHANGE along with the partners of might men and woman in this ministry.

Thank you again for all you do and sow into this ministry.

God Bless you and Kind Regards